Chapter 4: Understand your place in the marriage
For proper function, you need to understand and known your place in the marriage in other not to function out of place for the peace and unity of the marriage. The reasons husbands do refer their wives to go back home and learn when there is misunderstanding in their home, is because, the knowledge of a good behavior is not imbibed or inculcated in them as expected.
- That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
- to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-4 kjv)
1Timothy 5:8, Proverbs 14:1
Marriage is an institution, it is an everyday learning. It is meant to last forever. Marriage is not like a contract but, a lasting union. The heart to which you carry to the marriage matters a lot. If you see it as a contract, don’t expect that kind of marriage to last long (forever). Marriage is not something you rush into; if you rush into it, you will rush out of it and if you find out that you rushed into it, then you need to find how to maintain your home.
When you don’t understand your place, you will begin to misunderstand so many things. Marriage is not all about us, but it has to do with God’s purpose for the marriage. God does not bring couples together for their selfish reasons but for Him to derive something that will be of a great benefit for the next generation (Gen…..).
To be wedded is not a guarantee for a lasting marriage. Marriages wither it be of God (insight) or by man (sight), both marriages faces marital challenges; but that which God is involved in, scales (overcome) through it all.
When you understand your place
And you know how to manage your place,
You will not be displaced.
Don’t sell your place as a man, if not, she (wife) will be authoritative and unsubmissive to you. The woman is to support and assist the man at all times. A good home will always make a good nation and a good society.
What you refuse can never ever build itself.
Proverbs 14:1The responsibility of building the home is in the hands of the woman while the man goes out to provide for the home. When a woman fails in the areas of building the home, they will become nuisance and useless to the family and the society. The strength of the home is based on the foundation laid and the characters (instruments and apparatus) you used to build the home. If you will have a solid home, build it in a solid foundation (Jesus), and based on the love of Christ.
If you refuse to build your home,
Someone else will build it for themselves,
And don’t blame anyone for the outcome withers good or bad.
When you build your home well, it will become a blessing to you and the praise goes to you after God. The building of a home is very important, though it is not easy; it requires knowledge impartation and using love. It takes the help of the HolySpirit to impact knowledge into you in other for you to impact same into the home and as you do so, you will see the outcome will be pleasant.If a wife lacks the true knowledge to impact into their home, as a husband who has the true knowledge, you have to school her in love and with patience, not with a rash tune or mockery if she is teachable and heartily receptive to the teachings; in due time, that which was impacted will be reciprocated (received) of you and the entire family. If the home is in order as expected by God, when both of you stand and pray in agreement, answers are bound to be released.